Rape Is Society To Blame?

Lately I have been becoming more conscious to all the little stares I have been receiving and it’s about time I do some therapeutic writing to get it off my chest. Now who are the perpetrators? Well really everyone, I believe some stares result in me wearing the hejab. I mean being Muslim in this day and age is like sooo controversial right. The second kind of stares are from men who obviously aren’t aware that is not polite to stare. Both stares are equally irritating. The first kind are so deep it’s almost like they’re trying to look deep within my soul to figure out if I am a terrorist or not and it just needs to stop. I don’t stare at you when I’m walking or waiting, no I mind my own business. So please, kind sir/madam do return the favour and just for the record no I am not the “T” word. The second stares is one which every woman on this fricking planet is way too familiar with. It’s the “I’m picturing you naked” stare *shudders*.

Many men have counter argued that if a woman dresses modestly and conservative then men wont stare or to some extreme extent rape. Now this isn’t just a Muslim man’s or a Christian’s ideology this also most of the general British publics ideology. For instance, the infamous case of British footballer Ched Evans rape case, over %39 of the British public thought Evans should be allowed back into his football club. Furthermore, the government’s stance on Evans case was also worrying, where Ukip supporters most likely wanted to see Ched Evans banned from football. 54% of those who say they will vote Ukip in 2015 think Evans should be kept away from the sport. 46% of Labour supporters and 40% of Tories wanted him banned. The Liberal Democrats were the most lenient, with only 38% saying he shouldn’t play. Moreover, in a wider study The Amnesty International poll of 1,000 people also found over 25% blame the victims dress attire.

The statistics reveal a worrying insight of most of the public in Britain and around the world’s attitude towards rape. Besides, the statistics I find attitudes towards rape more worrying between young people of similar age to me. Whenever, the local newspapers headlines a story about a local teenage girl becoming a victim of rape, the first thought between young people who are discussing the story is worry and disgust that this has happened to someone in our small town. The second thought then goes to what the girl was wearing and why was she out so late or why was she on her own. More focus is given to the victim that the culprit. It’s almost like, we build a strong visual picture of the victim in our minds but are lazy to acknowledge the rapist as much.

This lazy attitude towards acknowledging rapists by both the people and the law almost implies the rapist committed a helpless crime as he is a man and men have their sexual needs which need to be taken seriously. Therefore, by questioning what the girl was wearing, why she was out late and why was she on her own suggests that the victim is to blame as after all according to the law’s attitude and the people’s attitude she did provoke the offender, if she wasn’t on her own then he could have thought twice about the sick crime he’s about to commit. If she was dressed loosely, then he may have been able to not sexually visualise her and not pounce. If she wasn’t out late and caught the train back home from work on time, then may be the darkness wouldn’t have swallowed her. This is what the law and people are subliminally saying to the victim. This is the real message the victim is receiving when the jury questions are on what she was wearing.

Back to the stares I was initially discussing. I think I counter argue the argument when people say “if you dress modestly men won’t look at you”. This is not true. If that was the case then countries like Egypt and Saudi Arabia would be completely free of rape not have one the highest statistics of rape. This argument is idle and really just another excuse to save the criminal. The worlds disturbing attitude towards rape makes me question, is society to blame for rape occurring? Or is committing rape really within a man’s nature?



6 thoughts on “Rape Is Society To Blame?

  1. Thank you mate, I checked out the post and once again learned something new and thank you for the long ass rant you quoted! I need to have a catch up on WP and go through your recent posts 🙂

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  2. If I may answer your last question, I refuse to accept that rape is inherent to humanity. What separates people from all other beings on the planet is our volition, and rape isn’t something that I believe most people would ever choose to do. However rape (or violence) appears to be inherent in most, if not all cultures across the world and that leads me to believe that’s it’s an effect of the wilful objectification of the genders.

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    1. Thank you for your comment, I absolutely agree. Many cultures either indirectly or even directly do indeed offer a different treatment based on the gender of a person. Some cultures such as the South Asian one are more upfront about it and sadly many women are mislead into thinking this is the treatment they deserve, therefore many live and endured violent husbands. When it comes to rape it’s the general attitude that baffles me. For instance, we both believe that rape is not inherent in humanity, it is not in our nature. However, general attitude from the law and public suggest otherwise. By questioning the victim what she was wearing almost implies that her thin clothing provoked a mans sexual nature as he was unable to control himself. So this is where, I personally get confused. Is the law suggesting that rape is within ones nature?

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      1. You’re right, and it would be fair to point at patriarchal societies for permitting excuses for people who rape, by shifting focus onto the victim. Rather than the circumstances which gave the rapist the belief they would get away with it.
        I’m sure a lot of rapists commit the act without believing it to be immoral or having to face any consequences for it. So in that way I agree with you in that society must hold some blame (other than the rapist of course), since no person should feel enabled to do such a thing. There’s clearly a problem with how we raise children and reinforce certain beliefs regarding the body into adulthood – but saying ‘education’ is the ultimate answer is too simplistic. Many people differ with what they constitute (figuratively) as rape, assault and abuse therefore such inhumanity will only continue for the foreseeable future, as the laws reflect this confusion.

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