Lately I have been becoming more conscious to all the little stares I have been receiving and it’s about time I do some therapeutic writing to get it off my chest. Now who are the perpetrators? Well really everyone, I believe some stares result in me wearing the hejab. I mean being Muslim in this day and age is like sooo controversial right. The second kind of stares are from men who obviously aren’t aware that is not polite to stare. Both stares are equally irritating. The first kind are so deep it’s almost like they’re trying to look deep within my soul to figure out if I am a terrorist or not and it just needs to stop. I don’t stare at you when I’m walking or waiting, no I mind my own business. So please, kind sir/madam do return the favour and just for the record no I am not the “T” word. The second stares is one which every woman on this fricking planet is way too familiar with. It’s the “I’m picturing you naked” stare *shudders*.
Many men have counter argued that if a woman dresses modestly and conservative then men wont stare or to some extreme extent rape. Now this isn’t just a Muslim man’s or a Christian’s ideology this also most of the general British publics ideology. For instance, the infamous case of British footballer Ched Evans rape case, over %39 of the British public thought Evans should be allowed back into his football club. Furthermore, the government’s stance on Evans case was also worrying, where Ukip supporters most likely wanted to see Ched Evans banned from football. 54% of those who say they will vote Ukip in 2015 think Evans should be kept away from the sport. 46% of Labour supporters and 40% of Tories wanted him banned. The Liberal Democrats were the most lenient, with only 38% saying he shouldn’t play. Moreover, in a wider study The Amnesty International poll of 1,000 people also found over 25% blame the victims dress attire.
The statistics reveal a worrying insight of most of the public in Britain and around the world’s attitude towards rape. Besides, the statistics I find attitudes towards rape more worrying between young people of similar age to me. Whenever, the local newspapers headlines a story about a local teenage girl becoming a victim of rape, the first thought between young people who are discussing the story is worry and disgust that this has happened to someone in our small town. The second thought then goes to what the girl was wearing and why was she out so late or why was she on her own. More focus is given to the victim that the culprit. It’s almost like, we build a strong visual picture of the victim in our minds but are lazy to acknowledge the rapist as much.
This lazy attitude towards acknowledging rapists by both the people and the law almost implies the rapist committed a helpless crime as he is a man and men have their sexual needs which need to be taken seriously. Therefore, by questioning what the girl was wearing, why she was out late and why was she on her own suggests that the victim is to blame as after all according to the law’s attitude and the people’s attitude she did provoke the offender, if she wasn’t on her own then he could have thought twice about the sick crime he’s about to commit. If she was dressed loosely, then he may have been able to not sexually visualise her and not pounce. If she wasn’t out late and caught the train back home from work on time, then may be the darkness wouldn’t have swallowed her. This is what the law and people are subliminally saying to the victim. This is the real message the victim is receiving when the jury questions are on what she was wearing.
Back to the stares I was initially discussing. I think I counter argue the argument when people say “if you dress modestly men won’t look at you”. This is not true. If that was the case then countries like Egypt and Saudi Arabia would be completely free of rape not have one the highest statistics of rape. This argument is idle and really just another excuse to save the criminal. The worlds disturbing attitude towards rape makes me question, is society to blame for rape occurring? Or is committing rape really within a man’s nature?