After watching Shoshana B. Roberts’s social experiment video on cat calling it was a thought-provoking insight to what a woman minding her own business walking through the busy streets of New York has to endure. But the controversial question that I would like to rise is some of the remarks Robert’s received were they a form of sexual harassment or just plain compliments? Over a 10 hour period Robert was bombarded with dozens of unwelcomed comments. For instance, from one pass-byre “what’s up beautiful? Have a nice day”. Now what to classify this as? As sexual harassment or just a compliment which may have been unwanted for but harmless? Many have argued that this video that went viral is just another excuse for feminists to moan and make a mountain out of a mole hill. What do I say? Well from observing the males in this video, what their intentions may be I would say no it is not feminists making a fuss over nothing. In fact I don’t find this cat-calling behavior is even acceptable.
Just because we’re women it doesn’t mean we want to be “complimented” by random strangers. We don’t need to be told that we look beautiful or to smile. Yeah there’s nothing wrong with these comments but to receive them from strangers there is just no need! We’re minding our business so why can’t these cat-callers do the same? We’re not being uptight about the situation, we just don’t understand why these men feel the need to shout and make superficial remarks. Robert’s video also presented her being followed by a man for 5 minutes and then another constantly asking for her number and protesting the reason why she isn’t give it, because she thinks he’s ugly. It was alarming to watch this as this wasn’t fiction but the true portrayal of the dangers women face. My analogy of men suggests that there are men who enjoy terrorising women, to scare them and to just be hooligans. They may not have any wicked intentions such as rape but they just enjoy practicing this as it makes them feel in power, it boots their egos and impresses their boys.
Also not mention, men who do behave in this way are usually the ones that are sexually deprived. Facing pervery cat-callers myself, I can usually tell their not really getting any action, the way these men gaze at you like they haven’t seen a woman before and we’re some mystical creatures that need to be constantly gazed at, all of this reinforces their desperation. What bothers me the most is when people say “well why you are getting so angry that he called you beautiful?” It’s hardly something to boost about now is it, being noticed by a couple of losers, who look shabby, dress shabby and speak shabby is hardly going to boost my self-esteem. Is it so hard wrong that women just don’t want their appearances to be picked on all the time? I’m sure men wouldn’t appreciate it if we randomly made remarks about their bulges or size, I hate to be crude but the point needs to be made! Wouldn’t men feel the slightest bit of insecurity if we did? Likewise women don’t appreciate it either when these cat-callers make remarks about our bodies. It only makes us more self-conscious.
I think I speak on the behalf of most women when I say we have never found a cat-call a compliment, we do not enjoy the attention and nor do we do anything that makes you force your conversation upon us. It is harassment; it can leave women troubled, frightened and anxious. So please be a little more courteous when you make your unwanted remarks and to those who justify cat-calling or brush it of as no big deal, then put yourself in that woman’s shoe, try to understand the mental stress it may cause her. Being seen as a sexual object isn’t a fun ordeal for most women who are just trying to get to work or pick up their kids from school. Let’s just all learn to see things from each other’s perspective and show a little more respect to one another.
Hey if your going to cat-call at least do it the right way like those fine chaps above.